Totally agree with you Poppy. Lots of people don't see the difference between rich and wealthy. You can be rich and have no money or wealthy but not rich. The very, very lucky have both. To me it sounds that Poppy would be an example of having both. Would love to know how you have such a rich marriage. I know it takes hard work, but unfortunately to quote Maverick in Top Gun, my first crashed and burned. Am in another relationship and scared to get married too quickly as have 2 beautiful children from. The first and don't want them to get hurt. Any tips.
I disagree it takes hard work. I have only been married once, but I kissed a lot of ugly frogs to get to my hubby. My frogs were hard work, but my relationship with Paul is like canoeing downstream. I would take your time as it involves your children too. If he loves you, he will understand as a best friend would.
Thanks. That puts things into prospective for me. My new man does understand and has been very supportive and caring. He has always said that my kids come first cause his big and ugly enough to look after himself. LOL. I'm the one that's struggling cause still sorting parental issues through court with the ex, so we can move and start a real life with no one trying to control me. My kids are 10 and 8, and heaps smarter than me. That's why I'm scared. They love Ernie more than their real dad so I don't won't to screw up by making the same mistakes again.
Totally agree with you Poppy. Lots of people don't see the difference between rich and wealthy. You can be rich and have no money or wealthy but not rich. The very, very lucky have both. To me it sounds that Poppy would be an example of having both. Would love to know how you have such a rich marriage. I know it takes hard work, but unfortunately to quote Maverick in Top Gun, my first crashed and burned. Am in another relationship and scared to get married too quickly as have 2 beautiful children from. The first and don't want them to get hurt. Any tips.
I'm usually reluctant to give advice about matters as weighty as relationships, but there is one thing that I believe I've learned over the years. People don't fundamentally change. I've seen so many women marry guuys with serious flaws thinking they can change them with love. Seems to rarely happen. The flaws may remain under the surface, but they emerge sooner or later.
A corollary to that theory is that whatever we are we become more of it as we get older.
I'm completely unqualified to give advice on marriage as my own has been kind of nauseatingly perfect. My wife and I both highly value trust and loyalty and we have a shared mission - family. We've said throughout our entire marriage that it's not about her, it's not about me - it's about us. We willingly sacrifice to the "us", not to each other.
See, told you it was nauseating.
Poppy
WOW THAT IS BEAUTIFUL. I knew that I had a great bunch of friends but that is amazing. That is in no waynauseating, and THANK YOU. That's the sort of relationship I want.
Just cause you don't have a piece of paper saying you are qualified, doesn't mean you are not the person to ask for advice. You would no more than a kid out of school with a piece of paper. You live it. The fact that you've been married so long means you must have got something right. And the fact your marriage is nauseatingly ( your words not mine) perfect is why I wanted to ask you. Thank you for answering back.
Totally agree with you Poppy. Lots of people don't see the difference between rich and wealthy. You can be rich and have no money or wealthy but not rich. The very, very lucky have both. To me it sounds that Poppy would be an example of having both. Would love to know how you have such a rich marriage. I know it takes hard work, but unfortunately to quote Maverick in Top Gun, my first crashed and burned. Am in another relationship and scared to get married too quickly as have 2 beautiful children from. The first and don't want them to get hurt. Any tips.
In my opinion being friends is soooo important. 2nd is communication and 3rd is agreeing to disagree. Easy peasy. lol
thanks GT. I must remember the 3rd one. LOL. Us fire dragons miss that every time. I still kick my butt, I have to remember not to fire at the wrong man. Unfortunately my ex knows exactly what buttons to push to upset me and Ernie cops it with his comments at the wrong time. I knew asking that what seemed dumb question would help me correct some of my faults. If I do that with the ex, then it won't flow on. Thanks Mate. Very valuable advise.
I'm usually reluctant to give advice about matters as weighty as relationships, but there is one thing that I believe I've learned over the years. People don't fundamentally change. I've seen so many women marry guuys with serious flaws thinking they can change them with love. Seems to rarely happen. The flaws may remain under the surface, but they emerge sooner or later.
A corollary to that theory is that whatever we are we become more of it as we get older.
I'm completely unqualified to give advice on marriage as my own has been kind of nauseatingly perfect. My wife and I both highly value trust and loyalty and we have a shared mission - family. We've said throughout our entire marriage that it's not about her, it's not about me - it's about us. We willingly sacrifice to the "us", not to each other.
See, told you it was nauseating.
Poppy
WOW THAT IS BEAUTIFUL. I knew that I had a great bunch of friends but that is amazing. That is in no waynauseating, and THANK YOU. That's the sort of relationship I want.
Just cause you don't have a piece of paper saying you are qualified, doesn't mean you are not the person to ask for advice. You would no more than a kid out of school with a piece of paper. You live it. The fact that you've been married so long means you must have got something right. And the fact your marriage is nauseatingly ( your words not mine) perfect is why I wanted to ask you. Thank you for answering back.
I have to admit it. After 44 years I'm starting to get pretty optimistic about my marriage.
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I disagree it takes hard work. I have only been married once, but I kissed a lot of ugly frogs to get to my hubby. My frogs were hard work, but my relationship with Paul is like canoeing downstream. I would take your time as it involves your children too. If he loves you, he will understand as a best friend would.
Thanks. That puts things into prospective for me. My new man does understand and has been very supportive and caring. He has always said that my kids come first cause his big and ugly enough to look after himself. LOL. I'm the one that's struggling cause still sorting parental issues through court with the ex, so we can move and start a real life with no one trying to control me. My kids are 10 and 8, and heaps smarter than me. That's why I'm scared. They love Ernie more than their real dad so I don't won't to screw up by making the same mistakes again.
It's amicable you are being cautious. I do have to admit, if I did not kiss those frogs, I probably would have not look twice at Paul. I think after knowing a lot of frogs, I really saw the good in him. It is true, your heart will tell you.
WOW THAT IS BEAUTIFUL. I knew that I had a great bunch of friends but that is amazing. That is in no waynauseating, and THANK YOU. That's the sort of relationship I want.
Just cause you don't have a piece of paper saying you are qualified, doesn't mean you are not the person to ask for advice. You would no more than a kid out of school with a piece of paper. You live it. The fact that you've been married so long means you must have got something right. And the fact your marriage is nauseatingly ( your words not mine) perfect is why I wanted to ask you. Thank you for answering back.
I have to admit it. After 44 years I'm starting to get pretty optimistic about my marriage.
Totally agree with you Poppy. Lots of people don't see the difference between rich and wealthy. You can be rich and have no money or wealthy but not rich. The very, very lucky have both. To me it sounds that Poppy would be an example of having both. Would love to know how you have such a rich marriage. I know it takes hard work, but unfortunately to quote Maverick in Top Gun, my first crashed and burned. Am in another relationship and scared to get married too quickly as have 2 beautiful children from. The first and don't want them to get hurt. Any tips.
I'm usually reluctant to give advice about matters as weighty as relationships, but there is one thing that I believe I've learned over the years. People don't fundamentally change. I've seen so many women marry guuys with serious flaws thinking they can change them with love. Seems to rarely happen. The flaws may remain under the surface, but they emerge sooner or later.
A corollary to that theory is that whatever we are we become more of it as we get older.
I'm completely unqualified to give advice on marriage as my own has been kind of nauseatingly perfect. My wife and I both highly value trust and loyalty and we have a shared mission - family. We've said throughout our entire marriage that it's not about her, it's not about me - it's about us. We willingly sacrifice to the "us", not to each other.
WOW THAT IS BEAUTIFUL. I knew that I had a great bunch of friends but that is amazing. That is in no waynauseating, and THANK YOU. That's the sort of relationship I want.
Just cause you don't have a piece of paper saying you are qualified, doesn't mean you are not the person to ask for advice. You would no more than a kid out of school with a piece of paper. You live it. The fact that you've been married so long means you must have got something right. And the fact your marriage is nauseatingly ( your words not mine) perfect is why I wanted to ask you. Thank you for answering back.
I have to admit it. After 44 years I'm starting to get pretty optimistic about my marriage.
Hi, my name is Glenys. I'm 47 going on 35ish. I've always been young at heart - my hubby is 9 yrs younger than me! We have a very active almost 6 yr old son who is as crazy as his parents!!
I am a woman driven by passion! I teach high school Drama and English and I love working with teenagers - they make me laugh every day! I'm also in middle management only because I have no patience with incompetence so it's better to put my hand up to do the jobs rather than suffering fools doing it and earning extra cash for nothing!
I am a scorpio (wood) dragon which explains my lack of patience with fools - it also explains the fact that I don't need people to make me happy - I enjoy my alone time - a fact that my gregarious other half gets frustrated with sometimes!
I grew up in Adelaide, South Australia with my loving Croatian immigrant parents- they were married at 16 and 19 having grown up 2 streets away from each other in a tiny village on the island of Murter on the Dalmatian coast of Croatia - a beautiful slice of heaven that they (now in retirement) spend 6 months of the year in-something I hope to do when I retire! I try to travel there at least every four years - the last time was 2009 so I'm planning on next year for my parents 60th wedding anniversary!
Being Croatian is a big part of my identity something I didn't realize until I went there for the first time when I was 16- as soon as I saw the ocean I started crying!!! And I hadn't even got to our island yet! Now, having done up the family home into 5 units, Dad gets enough from 6 or so weeks of tourist trade to buy his ticket back to Australia and have lots left over to play with!
Anyway, I just got sidetracked there! I love live music so I spent my 20s partying - boyfriends were never serious - I'm afraid I broke quite a few hearts then so I guess I was a bit of a b***h but that may be an understatement! When I finally fell in love at 30 it turned out that he was a TOTAL b******d! But I got over that eventually and I put the experience down to karma coming over to bite me on the a**! After that I was pretty guarded for a few years and then I met my hubby at 38 - now this wasn't all champagne and roses because although I fell in love, he didn't! He spent a lot of time being stupidly focused on the fact that I am 9 years older than him. Our son Miki was born in 2006 when I was 41 and I could have (and should have) got pregnant again straight away but that's when things really fell apart. He left us just after Miki's 2nd birthday which made things difficult for a while but I've always been self-sufficient and I didn't rely on him for anything before he left, so once the emotional stuff lessened, life was easy to get back to. Anyway, to try to make this a bit shorter, when I stopped caring, he started caring! He is now in love and I'm not where I used to be but as he's working on it I'm sure things will be peachy! He is also Croatian so that kind of kept me hooked in there where I would have totally walked away from anyone else. Things are good now and that's all that matters!
Menopause hit early so Miki will be an only child but I make sure he spends lots of time with his cousins to get a dose of a 'full of kids' household!
No regrets - that's a waste of energy! The Universe provides what we need and what we need to learn (I'm sure my hubby was sent to teach me patience!) So much more I could say but that's enough for now!
My manager is Croatian and goes home every August. Her parents too had retired in that beach city. I have seen pictures and watching Game if Thrones, I too would like to make Croatia a destination spot. Your son is very handsome. Enjoy this time as they grow up quickly.
I agree with you, the universe does provide what is needed.
Post by demonioazul on Apr 13, 2012 1:07:24 GMT -6
Hey Glenys, I can relate a lot to what you say. I understand what it is to grow up in a country but having different traditions at home,cause your parents are from somewhere else. And there's always the feeling that maybe you belong to that somewhere else, even if you love your country. At the end of the day, it is neither one way or the other, and you identify yourself with both countries at the same time. It is something that not all people understand, specially when you are young. But if you look at it at a broader perspective, in the end we are all citizens of the world, and there's only one world. And we call home to whatever we feel like home. You know, "home is where the heart is". Or quoting Tom Waits: "anywhere I lay my head, I will call my home."
I disgress, I just wanted to say Thanks for your story, and point the similarities with mine, even in that you teach Drama and I studied Acting! And we are both Dragons as well (I'm a Taurus, so that makes me an Earth Dragon). Cheers.
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My manager is Croatian and goes home every August. Her parents too had retired in that beach city. I have seen pictures and watching Game if Thrones, I too would like to make Croatia a destination spot. Your son is very handsome. Enjoy this time as they grow up quickly.
I agree with you, the universe does provide what is needed.
Ask her where she's from - it's a small world you know and if she's from around my area it's likely we have connections!
Yes, I'm a great believer in the universe that's why I truly don't regret any mistakes in my past (and there have been many!) I do, however, hate when my mistakes affect innocents - but I guess sometimes you need that to truly learn as horrible as it may seem! I have one friend who is an alcoholic and I have said to him numerous times that my fear is not that he'll hurt himself but rather that someone innocent will suffer hugely because of his behaviour! Unfortunately I also think that that has to happen before anything changes there. I believe that People who die young have nothing left to learn and hence, there's some truth in the saying, only the good die young!
Hey Glenys, I can relate a lot to what you say. I understand what it is to grow up in a country but having different traditions at home,cause your parents are from somewhere else. And there's always the feeling that maybe you belong to that somewhere else, even if you love your country. At the end of the day, it is neither one way or the other, and you identify yourself with both countries at the same time. It is something that not all people understand, specially when you are young. But if you look at it at a broader perspective, in the end we are all citizens of the world, and there's only one world. And we call home to whatever we feel like home. You know, "home is where the heart is". Or quoting Tom Waits: "anywhere I lay my head, I will call my home."
I disgress, I just wanted to say Thanks for your story, and point the similarities with mine, even in that you teach Drama and I studied Acting! And we are both Dragons as well (I'm a Taurus, so that makes me an Earth Dragon). Cheers.
Thanks Demonioazul (what's your name?) My son is a Taurus so I certainly have come to understand stubbornness! ( no offense!) the earth, wood etc element comes from the Chinese year that you were born - I was born in 1964 so that was a Chinese wood year. So you're probably not an earth dragon if you were referring to the fact that Taurus is an earth sign in western astrology!
Btw what nationality are you and where are you living - if I may ask?
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Hey Glenys, I can relate a lot to what you say. I understand what it is to grow up in a country but having different traditions at home,cause your parents are from somewhere else. And there's always the feeling that maybe you belong to that somewhere else, even if you love your country. At the end of the day, it is neither one way or the other, and you identify yourself with both countries at the same time. It is something that not all people understand, specially when you are young. But if you look at it at a broader perspective, in the end we are all citizens of the world, and there's only one world. And we call home to whatever we feel like home. You know, "home is where the heart is". Or quoting Tom Waits: "anywhere I lay my head, I will call my home."
I disgress, I just wanted to say Thanks for your story, and point the similarities with mine, even in that you teach Drama and I studied Acting! And we are both Dragons as well (I'm a Taurus, so that makes me an Earth Dragon). Cheers.
Thanks Demonioazul (what's your name?) My son is a Taurus so I certainly have come to understand stubbornness! ( no offense!) the earth, wood etc element comes from the Chinese year that you were born - I was born in 1964 so that was a Chinese wood year. So you're probably not an earth dragon if you were referring to the fact that Taurus is an earth sign in western astrology!
Btw what nationality are you and where are you living - if I may ask?
My name is Ignacio. I don't usually give it out not because of distrust, but because english speaking people usually have a hard time pronouncing it. You can call me Nacho as well, which is my nickname. Yes, you are correct, I guessed the element was given by my western sign so I really don't know what kind of dragon I am. I was born in 1976. I was born in Uruguay but have lived almost all my life in Mexico. Cheers.
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Thanks Demonioazul (what's your name?) My son is a Taurus so I certainly have come to understand stubbornness! ( no offense!) the earth, wood etc element comes from the Chinese year that you were born - I was born in 1964 so that was a Chinese wood year. So you're probably not an earth dragon if you were referring to the fact that Taurus is an earth sign in western astrology!
Btw what nationality are you and where are you living - if I may ask?
My name is Ignacio. I don't usually give it out not because of distrust, but because english speaking people usually have a hard time pronouncing it. You can call me Nacho as well, which is my nickname. Yes, you are correct, I guessed the element was given by my western sign so I really don't know what kind of dragon I am. I was born in 1976. I was born in Uruguay but have lived almost all my life in Mexico. Cheers.
My sons soccer coach is necho... So it should be easy to remember... Lol...he plays in a Latino soccer league..(one of his 3 teams)
What a wonderfully diverse community of friends. Thank you for sharing your fascinating life stories, and allowing us see you in a more personal light.
What a wonderfully diverse community of friends. Thank you for sharing your fascinating life stories, and allowing us see you in a more personal light.
My name is Ignacio. I don't usually give it out not because of distrust, but because english speaking people usually have a hard time pronouncing it. You can call me Nacho as well, which is my nickname. Yes, you are correct, I guessed the element was given by my western sign so I really don't know what kind of dragon I am. I was born in 1976. I was born in Uruguay but have lived almost all my life in Mexico. Cheers.
My sons soccer coach is necho... So it should be easy to remember... Lol...he plays in a Latino soccer league..(one of his 3 teams)
Well if you ever ate nachos with cheese, it's even easier to remember. ;D
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Hey Glenys, I can relate a lot to what you say. I understand what it is to grow up in a country but having different traditions at home,cause your parents are from somewhere else. And there's always the feeling that maybe you belong to that somewhere else, even if you love your country. At the end of the day, it is neither one way or the other, and you identify yourself with both countries at the same time. It is something that not all people understand, specially when you are young.
