Post by Fletch_smf on Jan 14, 2013 20:51:28 GMT -6
ED, I hope you don't think of this is any sort of tragedy that you can't get past. Heck, last year I got 3 mods to resign and a forum regular to leave the forum for a while because of the stupid things I've said and done, and I'm 3 times your age. People make mistakes, and quite frankly you need to own them because there is little else that is ever truly yours. The closer you hold on to the mistakes, the less likely you are to repeat them.
And you haven't lost anything by deleting your account. All your posts and forum interactions are still yours. Something else that it's important to realise is that life is just a matter of making memories. You have lost none of the old by making new ones.
And I know nothing about your life, obviously, or your specific set of circumstances. But don't hide things from your parents. I want to assume they want the best for you, and sneaking around behind their back is not a good way to repay them. We're a pretty nice bunch of people here, but there's lots of forums that are not good places for a teenage girl to hang out. And as you've seen it is easy for people to pretend to be something they are not if they have an agenda.
It's not my place or anyone's to judge what you've done. You are still welcome to be a member of this community, if you are inclined. Our door is always open, and we are better off to have you. Please don't be so hard on yourself, and certainly not because you think we are thinking badly of you. You have always been a special contributor to these boards. You were polite, involved, warm, welcoming, and supportive of others. Thanks for all the time you spent here.
It sounds too like you are being taught about balancing responsibility... the hard way. It's a valuable and humbling lesson to learn, and at your age too. Be tough, own up to it, and you'll be better for it.
Thanks for your honesty. If you hadn't of said you were 14, I woulda given you 15 at least
Stay cool. Michael
Thanks for the kind words, myke. That means a lot I wanted to treat everyone with respect...yanno...politeness with adults and such...but I like to generally think I'm nice ;D
The mom in me can't condone you letting your grades slip for a game and an online community.
The grandma in me can't condone you lying to get what you want.
The administrator in me can't condone fudging your age to join the forum.
The friend in me says I understand and come back and visit when you can. Think of us as dessert that you can enjoy after all your chores and homework are done to the best of your ability.
You have many years ahead of you. Enjoy the now in ways that cause no harm, yet make you happy. Take care of yourself as no one else can. Come back and make an honest account when you can.
Sorry...I dunno what condone means.
But for the friend part, thank you. The dessert thing will be thought of. And I think I will come back when everything is handled. Thank you.
Wow, Alice, that is quite a tale! I always thought you were either a precocious young person or a guileless adult! sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope things get better for you. And, as Viv once said in the 'how old are you?' thread, it doesn't matter much on the internet.
Please do keep us posted on how things are for you, but please don't let it become a distraction from your school and so. When you get a little balance back, I do hope you keep posting. As for your account, you can just make a new one and be the first to have two contests to guess when you will hit 1000 posts.
Koala either way. Alice.
Thanks Bliss. You put a smile on my face that rarely showed up today. I will come back, and I'll make that 1000 posts comp for you Believe me, I learned the lesson about being on the computer too much!
Eternity, wish I could give you a hug. This explains a lot. You know, most of us have done at least one thing in our lives that we're not proud of. It took me a couple of lessons to teach me that honesty really is best. You really seem to be a creative, talented, intelligent young woman. And you seem to be going through a tough time in your life. Our high school years can be some of the toughest in our lives, and you seem to be someone who feels things deeply. Remember, things won't always be like this. I, personally, would welcome your return to the forum when it's the right time & you can be open & honest about it. Koala & God bless you.
I would 100% receive that hug
Yes it is hard right now. But thank you for your kind words about the person I am. I think I will be more honest I guess the first time didn't work out eh?
ED, I hope you don't think of this is any sort of tragedy that you can't get past. Heck, last year I got 3 mods to resign and a forum regular to leave the forum for a while because of the stupid things I've said and done, and I'm 3 times your age. People make mistakes, and quite frankly you need to own them because there is little else that is ever truly yours. The closer you hold on to the mistakes, the less likely you are to repeat them.
And you haven't lost anything by deleting your account. All your posts and forum interactions are still yours. Something else that it's important to realise is that life is just a matter of making memories. You have lost none of the old by making new ones.
And I know nothing about your life, obviously, or your specific set of circumstances. But don't hide things from your parents. I want to assume they want the best for you, and sneaking around behind their back is not a good way to repay them. We're a pretty nice bunch of people here, but there's lots of forums that are not good places for a teenage girl to hang out. And as you've seen it is easy for people to pretend to be something they are not if they have an agenda.
Peace and Gems. Shane
I'm sorry to hear that Fletch. That stinks :/
Glad to hear everything's still here
Thank you...for everything you've done for me. Maybe they were little things but to me they meant a lot!
Thanks.
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Just to clarify it is not the forum making grades slip. Missing assignments
Hi Eternity, I just read your tale. I'm sorry for your loss. At least you still have the community, you'll always be welcome here. Hope you keep coming & making people smile with your lively self!
I think Pixie hit the nail on the head. And you are always welcome and important here. But you must be honest with your parents and obey them. If you are not honest with your parents they will not be able to trust you, so you will always feel like you can't be honest with them. You see? Parents don't always make popular decisions, and parents make mistakes, but they are responsible for you, even at your age, and they are your parents, not your friends. Parent is more important than friend. If they managed not to put you through a wall when you were less than a year old, you have all the proof in the world that they care about you. Seriously.
Anyhow, sort things out. Prioritise, act with integrity, and analise what you choose to focus on. We're always happy to have you.
And Fletch is way more than three times your age. More like six.
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and hope that they turn around for you soon. I can honestly say that I too, have traveled down that weary road of bullying, but don't lose hope, as there is nothing you cannot overcome I loved your creative writing/ideas and enjoyed chatting to another young soul such as you; friendly, encouraging, and respectful, and hope to do so again when the time is right. And please remember that I am still your supporter
Best of luck and wishes, ElektronX
Last Edit: Jan 14, 2013 22:07:09 GMT -6 by ElektronX
I already sent a gem to every contest participant. I'm still waiting for the vote to end to send the winner an extra gem. I have received gems from 6 participants so far.
Hey winou, I can probably start sending gems in about a day or two. I'm still returning gems to people who donated toward my gem tree.
Post by Maidy (Maid4Life) on Jan 14, 2013 23:40:09 GMT -6
Eternity, I am a mom of daughters. I thought you were young from the beginning and must have missed where you said you were whatever age you pretended to be. I'm glad that you felt comfortable here. This is a very kind and welcoming community.
I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time in your life. I want you to think about something. Even if people knew, guessed or didn't know your age, that isn't important. What is important is that you were accepted and liked here. Why? Because you are a bright shining star. You are sweet and positive and engaging. You had the confidence to join in. If you can have that here, you can have that in your offline life as well. Just be yourself and believe in yourself. Don't waste your time on negative people in your life, or those who try and bring you down.
My youngest daughter is 15. She has has a really hard time over the years with friends. Why? Because she is different. She doesn't follow the crowd, but is her own person. She didn't like the cliques in her school and wasn't afraid to tell people she didn't like their gossiping or to call them on their bullying of others. She spent a few years feeling alone and would hang out with the teachers at recess. She found an outlet in theatre and it gave her a lot of confidence. Things got better for her when she started high school last year. She finally got to a point where she was comfortable with herself and that's when she started having more and more friends. She gets involved and doesn't waste time on people who don't "get her" or like her.
My point in telling you this is that it can get better, but you have to make it happen. Take the confidence and love that you feel here and carry that with you when you interact with others offline. I don't want you to hide in here or use this as an escape. You are too young for that. You are strong and smart and fun. You have a lot to offer. Don't forget that. You are worthy of happiness and good things. Expect people to treat you well and don't bother with people who don't treat you well or see your worth. See yourself the way you want others to see you and when you start believing it, others will see and believe it too.
Lastly, don't let those grades slip! They are your future! I have a "daughter" who is a friend of my older daughter. She has a bad home life. Her adoptive parents don't treat her very well, so she comes here when she needs a safe place to go. I got on her case when her grades slipped too. She got them back on track and they got her accepted to college. She lives in the dorms and is now in a good safe place. She's going to get her degree in social work and wants to help kids. So, see how important those grades can be? Her family has a history of alcohol abuse, she has siblings in jail, and she is breaking that cycle. She's the first to even go to college.
Okay, enough of the "mom lecture". Big hugs Eternity! You are special!
Always treat others as you would like to be treated. GCID: Maid4Life
I already sent a gem to every contest participant. I'm still waiting for the vote to end to send the winner an extra gem. I have received gems from 6 participants so far.
Hey winou, I can probably start sending gems in about a day or two. I'm still returning gems to people who donated toward my gem tree.
Hi rynoster, I'm in no hurry, thanks for contacting me. maid4life and Maloojay, I got a second gem from you, please don't send another one as I won't be able to "refund" them, my friend list is too extensive. (But thanks!)
But for the friend part, thank you. The dessert thing will be thought of. And I think I will come back when everything is handled. Thank you.
Eternity
con·done /kənˈdōn/ Verb Accept and allow (behavior that is considered morally wrong or offensive) to continue. Approve or sanction (something), esp. with reluctance. Synonyms forgive - pardon - remit - excuse - absolve - overlook
Hi Eternity, I just read your tale. I'm sorry for your loss. At least you still have the community, you'll always be welcome here. Hope you keep coming & making people smile with your lively self!
Thank you! I have always felt welcome thankfully ^_^
I think Pixie hit the nail on the head. And you are always welcome and important here. But you must be honest with your parents and obey them. If you are not honest with your parents they will not be able to trust you, so you will always feel like you can't be honest with them. You see? Parents don't always make popular decisions, and parents make mistakes, but they are responsible for you, even at your age, and they are your parents, not your friends. Parent is more important than friend. If they managed not to put you through a wall when you were less than a year old, you have all the proof in the world that they care about you. Seriously.
Anyhow, sort things out. Prioritise, act with integrity, and analise what you choose to focus on. We're always happy to have you.
And Fletch is way more than three times your age. More like six.
Tommy when you aren't making me laugh I'm learning something ^_^ seriously. It helps...thanks
Also lol! I actually almost cried today, I am just veryvery stressed with everything. Thanks for the lesson & laugh.
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and hope that they turn around for you soon. I can honestly say that I too, have traveled down that weary road of bullying, but don't lose hope, as there is nothing you cannot overcome I loved your creative writing/ideas and enjoyed chatting to another young soul such as you; friendly, encouraging, and respectful, and hope to do so again when the time is right. And please remember that I am still your supporter
Best of luck and wishes, ElektronX
Thank you. Me and the one bully actually became good friends (the guy friend I once spoke about). It's over thank goodness. And thanks, I've always wanted another person to enjoy my writing ^_^ Thank you supporter!
Eternity, I am a mom of daughters. I thought you were young from the beginning and must have missed where you said you were whatever age you pretended to be. I'm glad that you felt comfortable here. This is a very kind and welcoming community.
I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time in your life. I want you to think about something. Even if people knew, guessed or didn't know your age, that isn't important. What is important is that you were accepted and liked here. Why? Because you are a bright shining star. You are sweet and positive and engaging. You had the confidence to join in. If you can have that here, you can have that in your offline life as well. Just be yourself and believe in yourself. Don't waste your time on negative people in your life, or those who try and bring you down.
My youngest daughter is 15. She has has a really hard time over the years with friends. Why? Because she is different. She doesn't follow the crowd, but is her own person. She didn't like the cliques in her school and wasn't afraid to tell people she didn't like their gossiping or to call them on their bullying of others. She spent a few years feeling alone and would hang out with the teachers at recess. She found an outlet in theatre and it gave her a lot of confidence. Things got better for her when she started high school last year. She finally got to a point where she was comfortable with herself and that's when she started having more and more friends. She gets involved and doesn't waste time on people who don't "get her" or like her.
My point in telling you this is that it can get better, but you have to make it happen. Take the confidence and love that you feel here and carry that with you when you interact with others offline. I don't want you to hide in here or use this as an escape. You are too young for that. You are strong and smart and fun. You have a lot to offer. Don't forget that. You are worthy of happiness and good things. Expect people to treat you well and don't bother with people who don't treat you well or see your worth. See yourself the way you want others to see you and when you start believing it, others will see and believe it too.
Lastly, don't let those grades slip! They are your future! I have a "daughter" who is a friend of my older daughter. She has a bad home life. Her adoptive parents don't treat her very well, so she comes here when she needs a safe place to go. I got on her case when her grades slipped too. She got them back on track and they got her accepted to college. She lives in the dorms and is now in a good safe place. She's going to get her degree in social work and wants to help kids. So, see how important those grades can be? Her family has a history of alcohol abuse, she has siblings in jail, and she is breaking that cycle. She's the first to even go to college.
Okay, enough of the "mom lecture". Big hugs Eternity! You are special!
You didn't miss anything...I never said. You must be pretty smart to figure it out Maidy ^_^
Thank you. That story is inspiring to me I'm happy for your older daughter's friend, that's great. Good thing to know; I guess this wasn't a hiding place...just somewhere else to go. Thank you Maidy, you have always been very kind to me (ok everyone has, but you know ) Thanks for the hug too ^_^
But for the friend part, thank you. The dessert thing will be thought of. And I think I will come back when everything is handled. Thank you.
Eternity
con·done /kənˈdōn/ Verb Accept and allow (behavior that is considered morally wrong or offensive) to continue. Approve or sanction (something), esp. with reluctance. Synonyms forgive - pardon - remit - excuse - absolve - overlook
Thanks for the definition. I understand.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Thursday=the end of this horrible quarter! Maybe Friday will be the return date ^_^ maybe.
Thanks to everyone...you all are very supportive. I'm glad to know (over the internet) people like you!
Post by EternityDragon on Jan 15, 2013 15:54:06 GMT -6
just realized I can't rejoin with my current age. I tried to reregister (believe me I wasn't going to post much...) And I wasnt allowed...what should I do?
And also umm I can't send gems to people now. Anyone will to take over for me? Me?
Eternity
is it ofiicial, is the poll closed? if so congrats to the winners, they are all great names. I am more than happy to take over the gem giving to the winners - shall we say 4 gems each to the 3 tied and skip the 2nd 3rd place prizes? I have 2 DV accounts with gem trees so can manage it in the next couple of days
And also umm I can't send gems to people now. Anyone will to take over for me? Me?
Eternity
I'll be happy to take over for you in this competition. How many gems will need to be doled out to each winner again? And is there a second place winner or will it keep to just the three?
Last Edit: Jan 15, 2013 18:18:56 GMT -6 by ElektronX
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sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope things get better for you. And, as Viv once said in the 'how old are you?' thread, it doesn't matter much on the internet. 
Believe me, I learned the lesson about being on the computer too much!
just realized I can't rejoin with my current age. I tried to reregister (believe me I wasn't going to post much...) And I wasnt allowed...what should I do?
